Dear Lady

Dear Lady
WHY YOU KEEP DATING/ATTRACTING THE WRONG GUYS. 



Do you find yourself alway dating bad (abusive, unfaithful) guys? Or always attracting bad guys? 

Here are some reasons Why...

1) YOU HAVE NO BOUNDARIES/STANDARDS 

Boundaries/Standards are important, they define who you are (IDENTITY), what you will accept or not accept, they also serve as a PROTECTION..

Having no boundaries/standards means ANY thing or ANY man goes, as far as it is Man,  character or no character, mature or not, you meet a guy TODAY and TOMORROW you are dating him, next TOMORROW you are sleeping over at his place and supplying him sex like food.

Can't you see you have no boundaries and standards like that?

2) YOU DON'T KNOW WHAT IT IS EXACTLY YOU WANT OR NEED.

Knowing the type of guy YOU DON'T WANT is the first step in knowing and getting the type of guy YOU WANT. 

Without clarity as to what you want, and what you don't want, chances are very high of you accepting the very guys you should turn down. 

3) YOU DATE FOR THE WRONG REASONS.

Making reasons like Money, he's Cute, I don't want to be alone or single, he's every other girls dream (what of your own dream) as your primary reasons for dating,

OR you are so desperate to be in a relationship WITHOUT taking time to determine other key things like his character (spiritual FIRST, then other character aspects) will see you dating wrong guys back to back.

3) YOU HAVEN'T DEALT WITH YOUR BAGGAGE.

.Baggage like character defects, past experiences, attitudinal issues, wrong dressing choices act as signals that can ATTRACT the wrong suitors and REPEL the right suitors,

Take dressing for instance, it's not matter of spiritual husband or deliverance problem, there's a way you'll dress and you're more likely to keep attracting Men who just want to chop, clean mouth and go. 

4) YOU THINK YOU DO NOT DESERVE BETTER 

We ACCEPT the TREATMENT we EXPECT 

We Expect the treatment we think we DESERVE
-MG 

Either for self esteem issues, or Misinformation, when you think you do not really deserve good guys, you will accept and settle repeatedly for bad guys. 

5) WRONG IDEOLOGIES

"All Men Cheat" 

"All Men are the same"

"Violence in a Relationship is normal" 

If you have these ideologies, you won't see anything wrong in accepting to date a guy you know very well you shouldn't.

6) You are a Bad Girl. 

Well, to a good extent, you attract your kind.

As a lady who parties, drinks, smokes, double dates, sees nothing wrong with fornication, you're kuku a Yahoo Girl on your own, you'll keep attracting guys like yourself. 

Its not enough to want a Good and God fearing guy, first, are you Good and God fearing? You can't be a Bad girl and attract a God/Good guy.. Except it's evangelism he came for.
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You need to change yourself first, change the criteria you use in interviewing/accepting suitors, and change your ideologies about Relationship if you will stop attracting bad guys.

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